Managing Relationships After Cancer

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In the current times that we are living in, cancer is still a topic that people shy away from. This is mostly the cause of fear of the disease itself. Given this fact, having the disease alone gives you a stigma title already. People who are not directly involved in your life are afraid to associate with you; people can't stand seeing you because of the pity they feel towards you.

For those that you are close to, be in romantically, family-wise, or those close friends, you having cancer takes a serious toll on them. Going through cancer treatment, for example, can create barriers between those in a romantic relationship. The emotional and sexual aspects of the relationship will be greatly tested as the treatment process involves medication that wears down the body, thus making some activities difficult to carry out.

If you are a parent and your child knows that you have cancer, the child will always live in a constant state of fear and worry as he/she just has the thought of what could happen if they lose you. These are just among a few examples that are relationship-oriented.

Managing Relationships After Cancer


How do we manage these relationships?

For those in intimate relationships

You should be open with your partner. Have a discussion about your concerns and also understand that they too are worried about causing you any physical or emotional distress. Also, understand that if you both walk through this together, you will come out of it even stronger emotionally.

Regarding your sex life and sexual function, you can discuss this with your doctor as they can work with you and resolve any physical problems that can make intimacy difficult.

With those in your social circle

Other members of your extended family, your neighbors, and friends will eventually get wind of the news, and most of them will want to show support through sympathy or financial contribution. The best way to deal with this is to be in control of what's going around regarding your health status.

Share with those closest to you and ask if they can do a written document that can circulate and give information to those concerned about your well-being. This will ensure they are not left behind, and once you recover, they will receive you in a proper way as they would have been in the know all along and not relying on gossip.

With your coworkers

Being diagnosed with cancer and starting treatment will definitely affect your performance at work. This is both physical and mental. You will be taking more time off for your doctor's appointments and also to recover from the side effects of your treatment. Your supervisor or human resource officer should be identified of your condition and also be kept in the loop with your progress.

Those you've told will have something to attest to when it comes to being questioned by their superiors, thus ensuring you don't lose your job. After your recovery, they will also know how to handle you at work.